A friend of mine recently told me that after ten years of marriage, she’s getting a divorce. She’s heartbroken. On top of the grief of a divorce, she’s worried about what’s going to happen to her kids. She wants to hire a lawyer, but she’s not sure if it’s worth it. I’ve never been in a situation like this before. I sat and listened to all of her concerns. I couldn’t give any good advice at the time, but I went looking online at the Alexander & Associates website. The attorneys at this office specialize in divorce proceedings. They can help parents get a fair decision when it comes to custody, visitation rights, and child support payments. All of this is huge when it comes to creating a healthy environment for your child. I sat down with her again and we talked about some of the reasons that hiring a divorce lawyer is important.
The biggest is that lawyers can provide great objective advice during the divorce, which is inherently emotional. Even the most cordial divorces can get ugly in the courtroom. I don’t know about you, but if I got divorced I would be experiencing a whirlwind of conflicting emotions throughout the course of a day. I certainly wouldn’t be in a good position to keep my head on straight and calculate what a fair agreement would look like. Lawyers help you to keep an objective eye throughout a divorce. With their help, you can determine reasonable visitation and payment options for you and the other party. They can also help to remind you that emotional decisions can affect the outcome of the divorce.
The second biggest reason is paperwork. During a divorce, judges rely heavily on paperwork and documented files. Keeping all of these organized, making sure they are complete, and filing them to the court can be a monstrous task. Mistakes are not taken lightly in court either. Having wrong or contradicting information on paperwork submitted to court can cause a judge to perceive you as careless when you’re really just unfamiliar with the process. Luckily, lawyers have the experience to do this in much less time than it would take you. They also know the paperwork that is going to help create a good outcome for your specific situation.
Lastly, lawyers help create an outcome that will work best in the long-run. When most people enter into a divorce, they focus on one issue that they care about the most. They want to fight for the best alimony payments, or they want to fight for complete custody of the children. Lawyers help us to create a settlement that looks at all aspects equally. They show us how compromising on some issues can create opportunity in other areas.
For my friend, I suggested that she should get a lawyer. The fees can total more than $10,000 when all is said and done, but it seems worth it in the long run, especially if you have young children. A good settlement may end up getting you hundreds more in alimony every month for several years. Extra visitation time with children is worth any cost, especially when the kids are still developing.